Monday, June 17, 2013

Marriage 4 - Bible Verses

Today I am sharing Marriage 4 - Bible Verses.  I am sharing Ephesians 5:21 - 5:25.  I bought this great new book, which has really opened my heart to the meaning of these verses.  I would really recommend that you get this book if you don't already have it.  It's called The Bible Handbook of Difficult Verses by Josh and Sean McDowell.  It really helped clear things up in my head.  There are just some verses which have been a little hard for me to understand, even though they seem very clear and straight forward.  I think this book would help a lot of women out there with it's explanation.

I, as a wife,  have had a difficult time sometimes with Ephesians 5:21 - 5:25.

Eph 5:21  Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Eph 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

I have sometimes had a hard time with the submitting part of these verses, until this morning when I was reading this book and these verses in relation to Luke 22:25 - 22:27, and then it all made sense to me.

Luk 22:25  And he said unto them, The kings of the Gentiles exercise lordship over them; and they that exercise authority upon them are called benefactors.
Luk 22:26  But ye shall not be so: but he that is greatest among you, let him be as the younger; and he that is chief, as he that doth serve.
Luk 22:27  For whether is greater, he that sitteth at meat, or he that serveth? is not he that sitteth at meat? but I am among you as he that serveth.

At the last supper Christ washed the feet of his disciples, he was acting as a servant.  Ephesians 5:21 says "submit yourselves to one another" not to just a certain group of people, but to everyone.  I have always read this in the past, to mean that my husband is kind of the boss of me.  Not very appealing, but when you read in in context with LuKe 22:25 - 22:27, it makes it easier to understand.  Jesus was being a servant to his disciples by washing their feet.  He was leading by serving.

So for a marriage The Bible says in Genesis 2:24  "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh,"  and in Ephesians 5:31 it is written, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh," we will be joined with our husbands and become one flesh, our souls tied together.  Unity between a man and his wife.  What is bound on earth is bound in heaven and what is loosed on earth is loosed in heaven.  So when we become one we become one flesh and one soul.

Eph 5:32  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Eph 5:33  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Paul tells us in Ephesians 5:32 - 5:33 that Christ and the Church are one and that is how a husband and wife should be, united as one.   Jesus served the needs of his church to become united with the church.  Josh McDowell states in his book that "a husband can accomplish that by being a servant leader and meeting the needs of his wife."  I think in that light it makes it much easier for a wife to submit to and respect her husband.

I understood this morning that it means that my husband is to lead me and love me and look after me, and in return, I will follow (submit) and respect him in our marriage.

I would really suggest getting this book.  I am pretty excited about reading more of it.  Next week I will share Ephesians 5:28 and what that means for a man in his marriage and how it affects us as wives.  I always love hearing from you.

Have a blessed week.
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The Bible Handbook of Difficult Verses by Josh and Sean McDowell.


  1. The submission part was hard for me in the beginning. I think that people think that submission = being a slave to something. but i learned through marriage counseling it is not that all. I am still learning how to let my husband be the head but it has worked out great for my relationship.

    Great Post


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